Imagine you welcome your adult friends, Sharon and James, into your home for dinner. While you’re eating together and chatting amiably, you notice that James doesn’t take any of your cauliflower puree.
“James, you need to take at least one bite of the cauliflower puree,” you tell him.
Then, you notice Sharon is playing with her fried liver and trying to hide it under her pile of cauliflower puree.
“Don’t you like the liver, Sharon?” you ask her. “You’ll have to finish that liver, or you won’t get any of the chocolate cake I made for dessert.”
Of course, you don’t carry on this kind of talk at the table with other adults. We don’t openly scrutinize what our guests eat. We remain cheerful. We pretend we don’t notice and are mortified only inwardly if our adult friends reveal in some subtle way that they don’t like what we’ve cooked. Of course we…
American moms find being around their own children twice as disagreeable as French mothers do, research shows.
We Americans would rather do housework than tend our own little darlings, according to Pamela Druckerman, in her recent Wall Street Journal article “Why French Parents are Superior.” Druckerman is also the author of the just-out Bringing up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting.
To rub more salt in our American parenting misery, I will add that just because we are self-sacrificially wretched for the sake of our children is no guarantee we’re doing a good job as parents. It may mean just the opposite.
Could your child benefit from professional therapy to solve her eating problems? Did you know such therapy exists? Some children are just picky, but others have more serious problems that can be related to physical development or medical issues. These problems can be addressed through special pediatric therapy.
Toomey & Associates of the SOS Approach to Feeding (Sequential-Oral-Sensory) provides these signs that your child’s problems are bigger than just pickiness:
Eats less than 20 foods, especially if she stops eating certain foods and never accepts them again
I just learned of the existence of PediaSure. Apparently it’s been around for at least ten years, but I just discovered it, seeing one of its commercials for the first time. I’m chagrined, but shouldn’t be surprised, to learn that such a thing exists.
There may be some justifiable use of this product, though it’s hard for me to imagine any. For a child who is physically or mentally ill or has genuine, physical sensory problems, I’ll suspend judgment for now.
If it’s for the typical picky child, though, PediaSure is a “solution” that offers false security while aggravating the problem of pickiness in a child. It’s a child’s solution to the problem, not a wiser parent’s solution.
PediaSure will resolve the root problems of pickiness about as well as giving in to a terrorist’s demands or giving a child the candy bar he’s throwing…